kulyie: If you know your worth,if you know how inestimably valuable you are you will not reduce yourself to a level where anybody will spit on you.its obvious you lack Why the hell should you? I had three days to pack what I could into my two cars, with my three dogs and I lived in a Walmart parking lot. But in any other context that's not okay and you shouldn't put up with that. All rights reserved. Dont be his verbal , 1st marriage, 6 months in, wife spit in my face during an argument. It'll be worse. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. male Another option for me to consider, thank you. Today I want to ask You to help me love others just as consistently as You have loved me. It just gets worse, so get out before it does. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. At a time when this pastor could have been rejoicing with us, he chose to make it another opportunity to spit in our faces. for the Q&A section. Nairaland - Copyright 2005 - 2023 Oluwaseun Osewa. Copyright 2011 Robert Ross. .. That is how much respect he has for you, for his child and for himself. WebYour spouse should be the only one in your eye, at least on paper and as far as they know. Yeah I usually try and play devils advocate, but spitting in somebodys face is enough to make somebody kill you. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I'm watching my children grow up, I want them to be happy, healthy and safe in their little worlds. 3. We're hosting a Reddit Talk Live event on Tuesday the 21st of September at 11am PST (2pm EDT/ 7PM GMT) with relationship expert Kerry Cohen, and we'd love for you to join us! Has there ever been a time in your life when you felt like someone you tried to help later turned around and spit in your face? It started with shouting, then evolved into spitting in my face during an argument, then to throwing things around the room, then to throwing things at me and then physically attacking me. Argued for it being ok. Never did it again. var day=mydate.getDay() You know the options you have,weigh them and make moves asap! I am sure that our competitors will not like it. But he can say what he likes. "what if the black mark isn't gone after all? Our Standards: The Thomson Reuters Trust Principles. male I still get choked up remembering that day. Take action and make it stick, for your own well-being. I would spit at him back but then again that might provoke him to hurt you. @ op you are the only one that knows where the shoe pinches.am even suprised you're saying you're in england and still you dont know what to do.is there not cops that you can report to for psychological assault?do you have kids?if you do is that the type of environment you want your kids to grow in where they see daddy spits on mummy at will.you can cover up for your husband for as long as you care,when they grow to a state of knowing their left from their right,i bet you will have a lot of questions to answer.secondly am not sure you want your kids growing up in a house where they think its normal for men to spit on women.remember you are their model and they will do exactly what they see their father and mother do,you dont want your son to repeat what his uncivilized and animalistic father is doing.sit down in that pseudo marriage till he pours acid on you.shebi its still saliva on your face,he will soon upgrade.you've talked to him severally,your mom to has begged him and he hasn't changed and your number 6 is not telling you that he doesnt have any plan of changing.dont you realise that theres nothing permanent in life.its either the person gets better or worse..however if you choose to die being a mrs,there are finishing school for crude and unrefined men like your husband.you can take him there and or take him to a hospital for mental check up or report to the police if he spits on you again or stay in the marriage,endure whatever nonesense you see,raise children who will become animalistic and die there.shikena. if the man just hit the wife for no real reason other then the fact that he was angry then that is not forgivable but if the wife was one of those pushy bitches who refuse to let up on someone when they're in an argument and wouldn't get out of the husband's face for two seconds so he walloped her because he was being pushed to his breaking point Where there is a will, there's a way. 8) If this gets into the hands of foreign nationals it would be an abomination and spitting in the face of all those who fought and died for this country. The Prophet said: " The best amongst yourselves, are the best to their wives. " Intentionally spitting on another person is an offensive touching that rises to the level of simple assault, the three-judge panel wrote. 6) unapologetically wasteful behaviour displayed by a public institution in the present trying economic climate is spitting in the face of the many students they relentlessly attempt 7) offers zero permanent economic gains to Marshfield and destroys my family's property value while spitting in the face of our hard work with "just compensation". As much as I've put up with over the years for our marriage to stay in tact, everything we've been through and it just seems like he wants to hurt me. We both have calmed down. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website. There are options - use them and get out. . that type of behavior is totaly unacceptable and has NO place in a marriage. Have you tried spitting on him? If you told the man how you feel about him spitting on you and he continued to do it and you chose to stay then I'm afraid to say it but you my dear are the one who needs the counseling. If you know your worth,if you know how inestimably valuable you are you will not reduce yourself to a level where anybody will spit on you.its obvious you lack self esteem and you need to get your dignity back,abi did they have sex with you in the bush and your parents forced you on him without proper marriage rites when they realised you were pregnant? A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. I don't forgive people when they spit in my face. You can't. Matthew 26:67 says, Then did they spit in his face, and buffeted him. The word buffet is the Greek word kolaphidzo, which means to strike with the fist. When Someone Is In Your Face Diffusing anger before it ignites. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! Need help with your relationship? The place they got me hired at would be the place I would meet my now-husband. By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. If I could find something else wrong with him, I might not have such a struggle with my choices. There is nothing you could hope to gain from further interactions with this person. Thank you all. Matthew 26:67. That should be the man of your dreams and trust me when that man comes along you will fancy him anyway. What the HELL??? But now He was being led like a sheep to the spiritual butcher of Jerusalem, the high priest Caiaphas, and to the scribes and elders who had assembled to wait for His arrival. I would like to know if my husband spit in my face to punish me (even though its nothing bad that I do) is it aloud in the Islam to do that, and if not aloud will he be punished. They got me a job after I searched for months, allowed me visitation with my "kids", (that really kept my spirit alive during this time, because wouldn't you know it - after I found it was so difficult on my own, I started REGRETING having called the police on my ex)!!! var daym=mydate.getDate() We think of motorized bikes 18) Hence the flurry of road upgrades. No woman with self-respect would ever allow anyone to spit in her face. I understand you been with him for 5 years but even if you were with him for 20 years don't you feel you deserve better? Copyright IslamWeb 2023. I picked up a phone, dialed 911 and let them tape the abuse over the phone. I'm sure he thinks it's your fault he HAD to act like that. It probably doesn't matter but what contexts did this take place in? Forget the fact that he's good-looking and has a "presence" that attracts other women - that doesn't make him worth more, it actually makes him less of a keeper, because he'll think he can hold that over you to keep you in line, and he'll be more likely to cheat anyway. Just as the Spirit of God empowered Jesus to love people consistently, regardless of what they did or didnt do, the Holy Spirit can empower you to do the same. In the end, it was just talk. It is also a show of weakness. I really am in disbelief over this. When I look at how far I've come now, it's just amazing to me. There's also a chance for members of this community to put forward their questions to ask her directly (and live!) Allow them to support you and your children at this time. All Rights Reserved. You are the CEO of your life. Go to our stickied post for more details! You and your kids deserve SO much better than that. I dont necessarily think it matters what the context was but for some reason Im able to dismiss the behavior. Allow them to support you and your children at this time. Thats abusive behaviour. Id respond exactly as if theyd hit me. A lot of the other answers read like theyre making excuses for abusers. No, out He appealed the conviction, arguing that spitting did not constitute an assault, but the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals disagreed. Personally, for me, spitting in someone's face and calling them a cunt is as bad as punching them in the face. I worked and continued to be homeless, living in my car and showering at my now-husband's place, while I saved money for my own dwelling. that hurts so much, so digracefull. Its disgusting. Its horrible and I cannot believe you are taking it so lightly. only he can choose who he wants to be in life. Writing that check was difficult, but once it was written, my heart simply flooded with joy because I had been obedient. He threw the proposal on the table, told me to never contact him again. To make it worse, the offender would usually spit hard and close to the persons face, making it all the more humiliating. Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here). Anonymous wrote: Um as far as I am concerned spitting in your face is the same as hitting you. by dawnomike(m): 10:49pm On Dec 23, 2021; My mum/wife can not be in the position where just anyone will spit at them. I don't know, I'm just thinking outloud. That is the ultimate in disrespect. SAN FRANCISCO (Reuters) - A man who intentionally spat at another can be charged with criminal assault, a U.S. appeals court ruled on Wednesday. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. You deserve better than this. To put the seriousness of spitting into perspective, on the hierarchy of force used by security and law enforcement here it sits squarely in the realm of "put them down, hard, as quickly as possible". My H is ADHD, he grew up in a very abusive family, and honesty I think he is bipolar on some level. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. He's threatening to come up to my job. every day he gets off work he stops in a bar. He's coming home in a hour. It's only going to get worse. If your spouse truly can't control their temper, then you need to leave and stay with someone safe. 4) You spit in the face of every Canadian veteran who fought for FREEDOM! Please modmail us with any questions. Get up and calmly (as possible) walk out of the room because my gut reaction would be to either slap them or spit at them back, neither of which is Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. By the time Caiaphas and his scribes and elders had finished taking turns spitting on Jesus, their spit was most likely dripping down from His forehead into His eyes; dribbling down His nose, His cheekbones, and His chin; and even oozing down onto His clothes. I had nowhere to go but my brother took me in for a couple weeks till I got on welfare and found low income housing. Let me tell you something. Get out, and do it for your kids. Anonymous. Islam urged the husband to be kind to his wife and live with her honourably, as Allaah Says (which means): {And live with them in kindness. In that culture and time, spitting in ones face was considered to be the strongest thing you could do to show utter disgust, repugnance, dislike, or hatred for someone. It all depends if you value yourself and if you have any self-respect. I agree that where there's a will there's a way. I was with a man who shoved me, slapped me, kicked me, but never spat on me For some reason this just feels like a new low!! Don't beat yourself up over what you did or didn't do, what caused it, etc. How did you act in response to that situation? We used to fight constantly we have both worked on toning that down successfully but now it seems when we do fight, its over stupid **** and its brutal. It is normally used to picture a person who is violently beaten. is breaking up the only way to make that point? 2. No woman with self-respect would ever allow anyone to spit in her face. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? JavaScript is disabled. All in all, the North Carolina appellate case law suggests that spitting on a person or even spitting towards a person and missing would be an assault. Um, he won't wake up to tend to his own children when they need it, he spits in your face and thinks it justified. And why me? unbeweavable!!! The Fora platform includes forum software by XenForo, http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/50152-our-blog.html#post873339, VerticalScope Inc., 111 Peter Street, Suite 600, Toronto, Ontario, M5V 2H1, Canada. Honestly, he is only steps away from physical abuse, and I know that for a fact because my ex used to spit in my face during arguments. Every time they spit on Him, they were spitting on the anointing. Because thats the only people i know men treat with contempt.you deserve better than this,because i cant imagine anyone spitting on me,men,whoever he is he will pay for damages and his entire family will go through hell before i back off.he will have to apologize prostrating wherever he did that act including his parents otherwise i will use everything am worth to reduce him to a nonentity. To ensure that this goal was accomplished, their own fists became their weapons of abuse. He poked fun at us, ridiculed us, mocked us, and put us down in front of his people. Imagine how your kids are affected, if my dogs are still like this, years later. Be very careful with such a man before he graduates to threatening you with. When I get disappointed at the way others respond to me or to what I have done for them, I often think of what happened to Jesus on that night when He came before these Jewish leaders. That clinched it! What rubbish! I'm so confused. var year=mydate.getYear() 1 Like ; The couple who took my dogs GAVE THEM BACK to me, and it was the best gift I think I've EVER received in my whole life!!! I don't think you should be telling Cherry that she is "wrong" and needs to apologize to her family. reader, buckster12+, writes (10 July 2009): Already have an account? [Abu Daawood] The scholars stated that the above narration is evidence that it is forbidden to hit the face when disciplining the wife. 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